Digital Safety Planning
If you are being abused through technology, consider creating a safety plan to lower your risk of further harm. To determine what steps to take, figure out what is happening that makes you believe that an abusive partner is accessing your accounts or tracking you using technology.
Sometimes the person knows too much about your daily activities. They may know how far you drove that day or the places you visited.
They might comment on emails or texts that you sent to someone else. You might find that someone else has posted using your social media accounts, or that your posts have been altered.
From this information, you can often determine what your partner has access to. They may have passwords to your accounts, are using the location tracker on your phone, or have hidden a location tracking device such as a Tile in your bag or your vehicle.
If you are on a family plan, they may have access to make changes to your phone without you being aware.
They may steal information by installing and hiding stalkerware on your phone or other devices that can track your location and log your keystrokes.
If you can safely do so, start documenting any activity that indicates someone is stalking you or using your account.
You may or may not want to submit this evidence to law enforcement but having documentation of their activity helps you see patterns and escalations.
If in the future, you do decide to report to law enforcement, this saves you months of documenting their behavior.
Take screenshots and keep logs of everything that you notice. If your partner does not have physical access to your phone, there are apps that can help you store information, such as DocuSAFE, created by NNEDV (National Network to End Domestic Violence).
Take additional safety precautions by turning off location tracking on your phone and changing your passwords on all your accounts.